These Days

out in the oilfield working 2-6 weeks long jobs I am armed with Direct TV movie channels. I watch a bunch of movies and many of them now a days are romantic comedies and I love comedies. There is a trend that I am sure everybody has seen and its two people falling in love then a something dramatic and exaggerated happens and they split up or something. Then oh they smile at each other after a night of reflection and soft music and we have a happy ending. There is always a fight scene and people walk away so easily and the only thing that fixes the relationship is some crazy fantasy situation. I think this ruining people's views of how relationships work. It makes for a good movie or TV show, but it is damaging the viewers. I feel terrible watching coworkers get divorces and kicking the girlfriends out left and right. I see a broken relationship more often than clouds out here in South Texas. I can never stay here, by the grace of God I hope I get to walk away sooner than later. The one fight or argument we had so far was hard but we both wanted to talk it out, unfortunately Catherine's background led her to believe I was leaving immediately. I don't blame her and didn't hold it against her other than saying "Please never let first reaction be: its over" because it'll never be over. We both know we'll be together for the rest of our lives. She knows it so as I write this it's not rat her out its to show our resolve and how we over came that first fight. I again say Catherine knows I love her unconditionally and would never walk out; it was simply a reaction she got from her past I am sure. I don't even joke about divorce or leaving Catherine for another girl. Guys I work with always joke about it and always hate it when I don't laugh or kill the joke. Its not a laughing matter or something to joke about. It has to be the worst feeling ever to lose the one you love and watch them leave for somebody else or something they think is better. I would not wish that on anybody. Its my worst nightmare- honest. I cant live without Catherine, I love her too much. If she ever gets mad enough at me, which I know I will more than likely accomplish on account I have some rather rude flaws, I will sit on the floor by the door till she lets me in. I will never call my guys and complain on account of the fact I will call later telling them how we overcame. If I get myself kicked out I will simply make camp in the front yard and remove the wheels of her Jeep so we have to talk. The beauty of our relationship is more than just Catherine's appearance and personality its that she would do the same thing for me- in fact it'll probably be her doing most of the mending and not me. I am a stubborn guy and she'll be the first to testify to it. Proverbs 12:4 says that a woman's noble character is her husband's crown. I am going to have some serious bling yo. One-Yes I just said "I am going to have some serious bling yo" Two-you better believe it too No emotionally charged songs or music will be what I need to ask for forgiveness from my wife. No crazy, exaggerated situation will be what I need to prove to her that still love her. I will simply have what we all have- regular life experiences where you have to drop your pride and man up to your mistakes and beg for forgiveness. The only way I plan of doing it is the way that works. Its great that I am writing all the great stuff but its nothing without action. So please feel free to hold me accountable if you ever read this; I welcome it. Catherine if you ever catch this post please... who am I kidding... you know what to do. I love you. For everyone else I hope it makes you think about relationships and how you handle them. I hope you find your own way and know that people's love it more important than yourself. You don't have to agree with me nor follow me. But I do hope you see how wrong the world is in devaluing love these days.